SAY “ADERABA!” AND YOU CAN SEE GREAT YESHUOS
The Ramban says that Yaakov wanted to name Binyamin the same name as Rochel named him, except that she called him: יִנוֹא ןֶבּ ִמ ָלוֹשׁן ַא ִנינוּ תתוּליֵבַאְו the son of my pain and mourning, and Yaakov switched: יִנוֹא “pain” with “strength” (as it says by Reuven: יִנוֹא תיִשׁאֵר ג טמ יחיו my first strength). He called him “Binyamin” which means “the son of strength” (because “Yemin”, the right hand, includes all strength and success). And the Radak interprets Binyamin as: ֶבּ ָח ן ִבבי my precious son, since he was a: ֶבּ ְז ןקוּ ִנים son of his old age. And some say Binyamin means: ֶבּ ַה ן ַמ ָז ַה לטוֹב “the son with good fortune”. The Medrash says that from all the Tzaros he suffered throughout his life, the loss of his wife Rochel was the most difficult hardship for Yaakov.
Look how Yaakov reacts to the worst tragedy of his difficult life! Look how he changes the sad name of: יִנוֹא ןֶבּ “son of my pain” into total positivism. We know that the Bais Hamikdash was: ְבּ ֶח ְלקוֹ ֶשׁ ל ִבּןיִמָיְנ in the territory of Binyamin. We can suggest that perhaps this is exactly what the Bais Hamikdash is: A place where the worst tragedies turn into the biggest Yeshuos. Like it says in the Haggadah Shel Pesach, that the final and greatest “accomplishment” is being in the Bais Hamikdash: לַﬠ רֵפַּכְל וּניֵתוֹנוֲֹﬠ לָכּ to be M'chaper on all of our Aveiros.
The worst tragedy is a sin, and the Bais Hamikdash converts a sin into the greatest Simcha. Similarly: םוֹקָמְבּ םיִרוּמְג םיִקיִדַצ ןיֵא םיִדְמוֹע הָבוּשְׁתּ יֵלֲﬠַבֶּשׁ דוֹמֲﬠַל ןיִלוֹכְי ברכות לד ב Baalei Teshuva are even GREATER than pure Tzaddikim! Indeed, a Chet is like: ִמ ָתיה death, as it says: תאֵטֹחַה שֶׁפֶנַּה תוּמָת איִה ד חי לאקזחי the soul of the sinner shall die, and doing Teshuva is the hope and the life of every human. We wonder: How did Yaakov Avinu become so positive, despite so much evil he experienced in his life?
More Than Anything Else, Hashem Wants Breaking Middos and Learning How to Accept
Why was the Ponivezer Rav so successful? A certain fundraiser told the Ponivezer Rav Zatzal that has no Hatzlacha. The Rav asked him what he does. He said that he gets up in shul, and cries out that nobody gives money for Torah... and it’s not right! Guess what happens? They continue not to give! But the Rav Zatzal told him that he gets up, and says how well he’s doing, and how people are giving generously. As a result, they continue giving even more, and in a short time, the Rav makes loads of money.
This is true in all areas of a person’s life. Never kvetch! You invite more things to kvetch about, Chas V'shalom. Be like Yaakov, who said: לֹכ יִל שֶׁי וישלח לג יא I have EVERYTHING! Look how he was Zoche to twelve Shevotim and the basis of the whole Klal Yisroel. The greatest people are those who don’t do so well, but they still insist on being positive!
There is a picture of R' Dovid Bleicher Zatzal being: ִמ ְשׁ ַתּ ֵתּ ַח (visiting) Kever Rochel Imeinu, and I heard that in Novardok they had more: ִה ְת ַר ְגשׁוּ ת emotion by Kever Rochel than by the Kosel, because Rochel was outstanding in Shviras HaMiddos. Notice how Mama Rochel is a #1 address for all kinds of Yeshuos in Klal Yisroel.
There is something about Rochel, which Chazal say actually saved us all, and in her Zechus: םָלוּבְגִל םיִנָב וּבָשְׁו אל הימרי זט her children will return to their land, i.e., her Shviras HaMiddos. Many people complain to me that they daven so hard, and work so much on Bitachon, yet nothing happens. Sometimes the answer is, that more than anything else, Hashem wants breaking Middos and learning how to accept.
I’ve seen Gevaldige Yeshuos when people have stopped davening, and took a break to thank all the time. Besides the Segula of being thankful, they have a Zechus of going against their Tevah of being dissatisfied.
Surely he lived a life of Bitachon, and he always said Gam Zu L'tovah. Notice how as soon as: תֶא וָשֵׂﬠ םֹטְשִׂיַּו בֹקֲﬠַי אמ זכ Eisav starts hating him, he runs away, and he has the most unusual: ִה ְת ַגלוּת revelation of: תֵרָשַּׁה יֵכֲאְלַמ Malachim and a Gevaldige Nevua. And then comes the most beautiful family with twelve Shevotim.
And right after Lavan chases him, again he meets: ˄ֱא יֵכֲאְלַמ ִק םי Malachim. And when Eisav is actually at the verge of killing him, and: וֹמִּﬠ שׁיִא תוֹאֵמ עַבְּרַאְו לב ז coming at him with four hundred men, again he encounters a Malach and overpowers him! And he gets a new name Yisroel, which is the most incredible accomplishment and Aliya of his life! No wonder he sees only good at the birth of Binyamin. And the fact that Rochel was Niftar, which was his worst pain, only means that the most unusual goodness is forthcoming. And indeed, the Bais Hamikdash was: ְבּ ֶח ְלקוֹ ֶשׁל ִבּןיִמָיְנ in the territory of Binyamin.
