Now we come to a sensitive point, which is really the entire point of learning this Rambam together. Sometimes a person doesn’t want to burden or bother others with his needs. This really comes from a great place. He doesn’t want to be a burden on others. He has his meager provisions, he has his shtender, and he wants to sit and learn... it actually bothers him when someone else serves him.
This attitude has a good aspect and a negative aspect. On the one hand, a person should be humble by nature... and for this reason, he doesn’t want to be served by others. But this person will reflect and analyze that he has a tachlis, and his tachlis is to designate an hour every evening for learning. He wants to be an ehrlicher Yid, and this is why he is serious about his daily learning. He also has strict times for davening. He has his priorities straight... he knows what his tachlis is in This World. If a person reflects on this properly, he would think about it differently, as we will explain.
Seizing the Moment
Let’s say that when this person wants to go out to learn at night, his wife doesn’t manage with the home, and she needs help. There’s a neighbor who offers to help, but the husband doesn’t agree to this. He doesn’t want help from others, and he doesn’t have the money to hire help. So, he decides that he will stay home and learn on the phone with a...
