I know a person who feels that everything he does is no good. He offered his wife some cold soda, but right away he criticized himself that he speaks too rough and abrupt. “That’s how you talk??” And this goes on very often; he is always correcting himself. A person can live like this, and in his case, being an Ois’ge’arbeta Yungerman is never going to happen, since he’s in a constant state of being Mr. No-goodnik, and you can’t grow if you’re always in the mud.
It’s Assur for him to start becoming a Ganzer Baal Mussar. He has one Mitzva, i.e., וחי בהם ולא שימות בהם to breathe life into himself. Building himself up and being Dan himself L'kaf Zechus is a constant agenda for him and a חוב קדוש holy obligation and a Mitzva Rabba; it’s Mamash Hatzalas Nefashos!
