Chazal say that immediately after Boaz married Rus, he was Niftar. R’ Chatzkel Abramsky Zatzal points out how without question, people were saying that he was punished for marrying a Mo'avis! We see from here that if a person does what’s right in the eyes of Shamayim, there is no concern for: תוֹיִרְבַּה וּרְמאֹי הַמ What will people say?? [By the way, R’ Chatzkel Abramsky was briefly a Talmid of the Alter of Novardok Zatzal, and indeed this is a real Novardoker Vort!]
When Chana davened for a child, she said: וֹשׁאֹר לַﬠ הֶלֲﬠַי אֹל הָרוֹמוּ אי א א"ש and Rashi [and Targum Yonasan] say that he should have no fear of people. We can suggest that since Shmuel anointed two Melochim, it is a major Middas Malchus not to care what people think [and indeed, Shaul lost his Malchus when he said: יִכּ םָלוֹקְבּ עַמְשֶׁאָו םָﬠָה תֶא יִתאֵרָי דכ וט א"ש I was afraid of [the opinion of] the people].
Notice how Hashem Davka wants certain people, especially Melochim, to be in a state of criticism from others. Many great people didn’t hold from Dovid even after he was Niftar, until the episode when the gates of the Bais Hamikdash refused to open up, until Shlomo davened: Open up in the Zechus of Your servant, Dovid. The idea of Malchus is to be “above” caring what people think of you, called Middas HaHish'tavus whether people praise or criticize you is “equal”. And if the Chovos Halvavos says that this Midda is Tachlis HaChamudos the most desirable Midda, then it would be appropriate for a Melech to have it. The whole idea of a Melech [who is anointed with Shemen] is being above the stupidities and vanities of Olam HaZeh. םֵה םיִכָלְמ יֵנְבּ לֵאָרְשִׂי לָכּ All Yidden are royalty! We are sometimes Davka placed in a situation where we are criticized, or we feel that people don’t appreciate us.
This can even be our own family members [Dovid and Yosef both suffered from this]. How important it is for a person to develop a strong connection with Hashem, and become less and less an: ֶﬠ ֶב ִנ ד ְר ַצע eternal slave to: תוֹיִרְבַּה וּרְמאֹי הַמ What will people say?? especially at the time of Kabolas HaTorah.
The true reason why so many noble souls with tremendous potential do not get involved in Zikkui HaRabbim is because of: תוֹיִרְבַּה וּרְמאֹי הַמ What will people say?? For good reason, not worrying about what people say is Tachlis HaChamudos the most desirable Midda. Remember: ֵא ַה ןי תּוֹ ֶﬠ ֶל ְו ת ַה ֶנ ֶז ִמ ק ַה ן ִנ ְב ָר ֶא א ָל ִמ אן ַהבּוֹ אֵר people cannot help you or harm you; only Hashem.
