The 25th of Iyar [this Sunday] is the Yahrzeit of R’ Dovid Bleicher Zatzal. He said that the nature of most people is to learn the wrong Mussar. For example, a person who should be building himself up, goes and learns about Anava thereby taking the wrong “medicine” and exasperating his problems. He also said that a person has no idea whatsoever how great his Kochos are, and in the end, he will have to pay dearly for not believing in himself.
He once said that he had lots of Simcha when he had Bizyonos, and the more Bizyonos the more Simcha! He learned in Slabodka and Novardok. Both Yeshivos were known to specialize in self-esteem, and in having no fear of people. A person who is secure, and works on self-esteem and being happy with what he has, has less problems with Bizyonos, since he is independent and doesn’t live for getting Kavod and approval from others.
I once saw Reb Nosson Wachtfogel’s reaction to someone who was M’vazeh him in public: his face shined with Simcha, and he looked like he was having loads of fun. Indeed, it says it says a person loses all his sins if he is Mochel on his Bizayon.
I witnessed a very similar reaction when someone was M’vazeh R’ Yaakov Galinsky. He was rolling with laughter, and he looked as if he was having a great time. It is known he learned lots of Mussar. There are so many Chazal’s and stories about greatness of Bizayon, that there is an entire Sefer called: ְכּ ֵצ ַה תא ֶשׁ ֶמשׁ ִבּ ְגבוּ ָר וֹת which deals only with this subject. I know many people whose lives were changed by this Sefer.
I was once on the telephone with a very Chashuva Chasidishe Rav. During the conversation, he found out that he would be getting Bizyonos. He became overjoyed, and said: Bizyonos? This is Gevaldig!
The Arizal said that if people would know the greatness of Bizayon, they would run after it in the streets and the market places. Bizyonos take away your sins, and save you from worse Yissurim, such as health issues. So, a person should accept Bizayon with Simcha.
When a person learns Mussar about the Ma’ala of Bizayon, he changes his way of thinking. It becomes easier to accept Bizayon, and can even become desirable.
However, if he can’t learn Mussar, and he swallows his Bizayon with difficulty despite the unpleasant sting, he should know the words of the holy Baal Shem Tov: In Avodas Hashem, if a person does not feel the proper Ahava and Yir’ah, he should know it is in a way better, because of his difficulty!
