ARCHIVE Q&A
QUESTION
When I hear about tragic news, for example when I heard about... I easily become depressed for many days. I keep remembering these tragic stories, until the next tragedy comes, and then I keep thinking about the new tragedy...What is the perspective I need to have, whenever I hear or read about tragedies? How can I come out of the trauma that I get from bad news which I heard or read about?
ANSWER
- [You need to have] emunah, faith in G-d.
- Think about the spiritual suffering that there is today, which is far worse, considering the great spiritual destruction that is taking place in our generation.
- Think about what you can generally to act kindlier towards others.
- Connect to the inner good that is within you.
- Immerse yourself in a world of inner thought.
- Be happy about the fact that you are able to feel others’ pain.
- Accept the suffering that you feel, with love.
- Reflect and conclude that part of the makeup of Creation is that it entails “evil” [anything we perceive as not being good], and that the result of this is all of the suffering in Creation.
- Connect to a holy kind of joy – in action, and in emotion.
- In general, it is worthwhile to be aware that it’s better for a person when he doesn’t know that much about any news that happens in the world. This is how the Chofetz Chaim conducted himself. Therefore, one should avoid reading the newspapers and etc. (This is besides for other reasons why a person shouldn’t read the newspapers, but let this reason suffice).
QUESTION
Can the Rav give a few examples of how we can feel like a “tamim”1 towards Hashem and realize that He’s in control of everything?
ANSWER
We are in a world being dominated by attacks from all kinds of forces, such as Islamic extremists, wicked people who are constantly contemplating ways of how to kill. If one tries to think logically of what causes terrorism, either he’ll conclude that it’s Arabs from Syria or from Iran, or from some other place in the world. But you can realize that they are all messengers of Hashem, and Hashem is using them to carry out His will – it is really not possible to handle them using our puny human logic. Hashem is leading them, and this is above the understanding of our human intellect.
The wisest people in the world perhaps can wonder of how to deal with them, but do they know what’s enabling them to act? No, because it is Hashem Himself who is letting them act. The wise people in the world can try to think and think of what to do about them, but Hashem lets them act as He wills, and all of their rationalizations are for naught.
A person can see that all that he does understand is but a drop of understanding in the incomprehensible. We don’t even understand the tiniest detail of Hashem’s ways. Reb Noach of Kobrin zt”l said that without emunah, it’s not possible to leave the house, and with emunah, one can conquer everything. Most people though are leaving their homes each day without emunah, out of immaturity towards life. But when a person has true understanding, and he thinks, he can see how the entire world is being led by Hashem, and that we have no comprehension of anything, and we can’t predict even the next moment. So how do we survive in this world? Only through using the depth of the power temimus!
QUESTION
If a person has emunah, can he understand terrorism today?
ANSWER
There is some small amount of comprehension we can have in Hashem’s ways, but to know all of His ways is above our understanding.
QUESTION
If a person has emunah, will he be protected from the terrorism of today?
ANSWER
The Rambam says in Moreh Nevuchim that a person will receive individual protection by Hashem the more emunah he has. The more a person has emunah, the more he can prevent the forces of evil from breaking loose upon this world. We can’t stop it totally, because Hashem has His ways that we don’t understanding, but yes, to a certain extent, we can definitely lessen the terrorism in this world by strengthening our emunah.
QUESTION
Are there things today we are doing which prevent us from having temimus?
ANSWER
All that we see with our physical eyes can take away our temimus. For example, you see your house, and you naturally think that some contractor built it. You get used to thinking that people do everything in this world. When a person reads and hears the news all the time and he keep hearing/reading the opinions of others people, how each person understands things, and this makes us think that people are in charge of this world. It is the opposite of emunah which is to believe that Hashem runs the world, and the only thing which we can do is to use our power of free will. All of the news outlets – secular media, Jewish newspapers, and even the most Chareidi newspapers border on heresy. They all are indicating that people run the world. The more a person lives a life of temimus, the more he views the world through different lenses. He is aware that whenever a person does something, he is merely a messenger of Hashem. But when we get used to reading [or hearing] the news on a set basis, we get used to thinking that people run this world which is the opposite of a temimus kind of life. If someone can hear the news all the time and tell himself that Hashem is running the world even after all that he hears, then it would be a point open for discussion. But if a person regularly listens to the news, he probably isn’t reacting that way, and it gets a person used to heresy on a regular basis!
QUESTION
How can a person feel how Hashem is doing everything when we feel all the time that we live in the real world and that it is we who do everything?
ANSWER
This is a very good question. I have to do what I need to do, but after I do what I do, I must tell myself that it’s not up to me, and that only Hashem does everything and let everything happen. On a more subtle note, this deep awareness can also bring one to bittul (self-nullification) and humility towards Hashem.
QUESTION
How can we feel calm and that Hashem is doing everything when there are so many troubles surrounding us?
ANSWER
This question goes against all our emunah. The Kotzker Rebbe zt”l said, “If I could understand Hashem, I would not want Him to be my God.” We do not understand Hashem or His ways. We do not understand His good ways and surely when He has to inflict pain upon us we don’t understand.
There is a little we do comprehend but for the most part, we don’t comprehend His ways, so we must not question Him.
QUESTION
What can I do to actually calm myself down, in the meantime?
ANSWER
When you truly believe that Hashem is doing it all, then you will be calmed. On the contrary, if you believe that “this bad person” did this and “that bad person” did this, then indeed, everything seems bad. But tell yourself that no one is running this world but Hashem Who is endlessly merciful – all that He does is good. If you truly come to feel that Hashem is really doing everything in this world, not people, you will be calmed which is the depth of using your temimus. Perhaps one can try to “explain” the troubles we face today as an “atonement for our sins” or because “Moshiach is coming”, etc.. However, the way of our emunah is to simply believe that Hashem is behind it all, therefore all is good.
See Tefillah 075 for an in-depth analysis of suffering.
