This week’s Parsha talks about the red heifer, the Parah Adumah. Now, the Torah says: “Zos chukas haTorah—This is the decree of the Torah.” A chok is a mitzvah that we don’t understand, and we have no explanation for it. Parah Adumah is the quintessential chok. You take a red cow, without blemish, that has never borne a yoke, and you burn it. Then you mix the ashes with water, and you sprinkle it on someone who’s tamei (impure), and that person becomes tahor (pure). But the Kohen who’s doing the sprinkling, who started off pure, becomes tamei.
But why a red cow? If the Torah wanted to pick a mitzvah that we don’t understand, why pick this one? Why the Parah Adumah? There are 613 mitzvos. Why choose this?
Rashi says: because the Satan and the nations of the world bother us about this mitzvah. They say, “What is this ritual with the red cow? What kind of magic is this? What sense does it make—sprinkling ashes and water? Sounds like idol worship. Like baptism or something.”
So Hashem says, “Gzeirah hi milfanai—It’s a decree before Me. Ein lecha reshus l’harher achareha—you don’t have permission to question it.” Don’t try to figure it out. Don’t try to rationalize it. Don’t think about it.
And the question is: did the yetzer hara ever bother any of you about the Parah Adumah? Did you ever sit at night thinking, “Why a red cow?” No! It bothers us about other things—tznius, our parents, keeping Shabbos. All the things the yetzer hara works overtime to make hard. But I never met a Jewish boy or girl crying about the red cow.
So what’s Rashi talking about? I do business with non-Jews. The number one question they ask me: “Why do you wear that on your head?” The yarmulke. No one asks me about taharas hamishpacha. No one ever said, “Hey Rabbi, what’s up with the red cow?” Never. So why does Rashi say that this mitzvah specifically is what the non-Jews and the Satan will taunt us with?
Because it’s not just about the cow. It’s about what the cow represents. The Parah Adumah makes the impure person pure, and the pure Kohen becomes impure. It’s backwards. It’s illogical. If I make you pure, how does that make me impure? That doesn’t make sense. And Hashem says, “Don’t think about it.” Why not?
Because this is the question that the Satan uses on every Jew: Tzaddik v’ra lo, rasha v’tov lo. Why do bad things happen to good people?
The Kohen, the good guy, becomes impure. The impure guy, the sinner, becomes pure. It doesn’t make sense. You’re the chosen nation—but it seems like you were chosen to suffer. The Beis Hamikdash destroyed, pogroms, crusades, Holocaust, six million Jews murdered. And yet we’re “chosen”?
Why is it that the best students in school are 45 and still not married? Why is it that couples who keep every mitzvah can’t have children? Why do good people suffer?
That’s the Parah Adumah. That’s the symbol. And that’s why Hashem says: “Don’t try to understand it. Don’t think about it.”
Even Moshe Rabbeinu couldn’t understand it. He said, “Hashem, why does the tzaddik suffer?” And Hashem said, “You can’t understand. You’d have to see every reincarnation, every soul’s process. I’m not redoing the whole universe to explain it to you.”
And that’s the message of the Parah Adumah.
There’s another reason we don’t talk too much about the Parah Adumah. The sin of the Golden Calf—the Egel HaZahav—was done with a calf. The Parah Adumah, the red cow, atones for that sin. The mother atones for the child. But to talk about the Parah, we have to remember the Egel. And Hashem doesn’t want to bring that up again. He says, “Don’t go there. Don’t reopen that file.”
So we leave it alone. But the bigger lesson is this:
We think bad is bad. But we don’t know the cheshbon. The Kav HaYashar speaks about gilgulim. It’s very deep, but it teaches us something: You’re going through this now, but maybe it’s not new. Maybe it’s from a past life. And it’s you—you’re just fixing what you didn’t fix last time. There are things we just can’t understand.
So Hashem says: “Don’t think about it. You don’t have the mind to grasp it. You don’t have the capacity. You’ll never get it.”
That’s the Parah Adumah. That’s the beginning of Parshas Chukas.
Now let’s move to another powerful part of the Parsha—the death of Aharon HaKohen.
Aharon’s merit brought the Ananei HaKavod, the Clouds of Glory, that surrounded and protected Klal Yisrael in the desert. When Aharon died, the clouds disappeared. And when the clouds disappeared, the Jewish people panicked, because they were exposed, and they were attacked.
Let’s read what happened next. It says: "Vay’daber ha’am b’Elokim u’v’Moshe —the nation spoke against G-d and against Moshe. Lama he’elitunu m’Mitzrayim, lamus bamidbar—Why did You take us out of Egypt to die in the desert?” “There’s no bread. There’s no water. And we’re sick of this ‘lechem haklokeil’”—we’re sick of the mann, the heavenly bread.
So what does Hashem do? Hashem sent venomous snakes, and they bit the people, and many Jews died.
Why snakes? Why not lions? Why not wild animals? What’s the connection between their sin and snakes?
Because the snake is the symbol of lashon hara. The snake was the original baal lashon hara; it spoke evil about Hashem to Chava. “Hashem told you not to eat from the tree because He doesn’t want you to be like Him.” The snake was punished by losing its legs and eating dirt forever.
So now, when Klal Yisrael speaks lashon hara—midah k’neged midah—the snake comes back to bite them.
And what do the people do? They run to Moshe. They say, “Chatanu, we sinned. Ki dibarnu b’Hashem u’vach—we spoke badly about Hashem and about you. Please daven to Hashem to take away the snakes.”
So what does Moshe do? He davens. But the snakes don’t go away.
Instead, Hashem says: “Make a copper snake. Put it on a pole. Anyone who gets bitten should look at the snake—and they’ll live.” Moshe makes the copper snake, places it high up on a pole. And if someone was bitten by the snake and looked up at the copper snake, he lived.
What’s going on here?
Why not just remove the snakes? Why not do what He did in Mitzrayim—get rid of the frogs, the lice, the wild animals? Why make a copper snake? Why not gold or silver?
Because the Hebrew word nachash (snake) and nechoshes (copper) share the same root. That’s the connection.
But more importantly, why did Hashem require this whole process? Why not just forgive them and end the suffering? Because there’s a lesson here.
Everyone in life gets bitten. Everyone experiences trauma. It might not be physical. It might not be abuse. But everyone faces pain: death of a loved one, business failure, emotional breakdown, personal collapse.
You have two choices: Face it, or succumb to it.
Hashem didn’t say, “Tell Moshe to daven and the bites will stop.” He said, “When they get bitten, tell them to look up at the snake.” Why look at the very thing that hurt them?
You got bitten by a dog—you don’t go hang out at the dog park.
It’s counterintuitive. If the snake hurt you, why are you being told to stare at a snake? Because healing comes from facing your trauma. If someone drowns, what do you do? You get them back in the water—slowly. Otherwise they’ll never swim again. If you’re in a car accident, what do they tell you? Get back behind the wheel. Otherwise you’ll never drive again.
Hashem was teaching us: Yes, you were bitten. Yes, you’re in pain. But look up. Look at the snake. And see what’s above it. When they looked up at the snake on the pole, what did they really see? Past the snake, past the pole—was the sky. Shamayim. And in shamayim—Hashem. The Gemara says: “V’chi nachash memis? Nachash mechaye?”—Does a snake kill? Does a snake heal? No. When the people looked upward, toward Heaven, and they submitted their hearts to their Father in Heaven, they were healed. The snake didn’t heal them. Looking upward did. The pain didn’t disappear. But their emunah gave them the strength to overcome it.
There’s a famous story in the Gemara (Berachos 33a). A certain arod (a lizard-like creature) was harming people in a town. R’ Chanina ben Dosa was summoned and stepped on the arod hole, whereupon the arod bit him, and the arod died. They asked him: “Why didn’t you die?” He answered: “Lo hanachash memis, ela hacheit memis—It’s not the snake that kills. It’s the sin.”
When we do teshuvah, when we reconnect to Hashem, healing comes. This isn’t just my opinion. This is Torah. When a Jew was bitten, he looked up, and he lived.
Anyone in the medical field knows that the emblem of medicine is a stick with a snake wrapped around it. Where does that come from? This week’s Parsha. All the 12-step programs say the same thing. They are not Jewish, and yet the second step is: You must believe in a higher power.
Not because they’re religious. Because they know that without emunah, you cannot recover. It’s a fact. Know there’s something higher. Something beyond. If not, life becomes meaningless. Pain becomes random. And there’s no way to survive that.
If there’s no higher power, then everything is just bad luck. Cancer? Bad luck. Abuse? Bad luck. Poverty? Bad luck. That’s a dark, hopeless world.
But if there’s a Higher Power, if there’s a G-d, if there’s a purpose, then you can heal. Hashem didn’t say you won’t get bitten. He said: If you get bitten—and you will—then you must look up.
And when you look past the snake, past the pain, past the trauma—you’ll see the Rofeh, the Healer.
