Weddings are filled with ‘middos opportunities’. The best advice I think I can give when attending a wedding is to think, ‘what is my job here today.’ Sometimes just by being present at a wedding one is fulfilling his job, as this is based on an opinion in the Rishonim that each additional person present at a wedding adds to the joy of the Baal Simcha. However, we can use weddings as an opportunity to look around and see where we can be more of a participant than a spectator.
When going to the chasson’s tisch, see if any of the Rabbis or family members are too busy to get food and bring a small plate for them. Another simple idea is to try to be the first to offer water to the chosson or kallah before they are looking thirsty and overheated from the festivities. Does the father of the chosson or kallah look a little sweaty? Bring him a napkin! May we be zocheh to be mesamayach the chosson and kallah and utilize the opportunities that come along with it.