We can say that: הָּתָחְמִשְׂב הֶאוֹרְו הֶכוֹז םִיַלָשׁוּרְי לַﬠ לֵבַּאְתִמַּה לָכּ תענית ל ב mourning over Yerushalayim, includes a general love and yearning for all kinds of Ruchaniyus'dik experiences that aren’t happening, Rachmana Litzlan. For example, I can’t figure out a Rambam, or finish the Masechta, or smile more, or have more Chi'yus in Avodas Hashem. I’m somewhat dead and dysfunctional, with all my Bittul Torah, Kin'ah, Ta'ava, Kavod, and Ka'as issues.
You usually have bottomless potential to become a true Adam Gadol and Tzadik, but our bitter Galus stops everything. Keep crying! The more you show a desire for the truth and for Kavod Shamayim, and for the pain of Klal Yisroel, especially for those millions of holy Jews who sound just like Goyim, Rachmana Litzlan, the more Simcha you’ll end up getting. But this is just for Tisha B’av. Normally, we all need much more practice in thanking, than always feeling bad we aren’t better.
PS. There are plenty of us who Davka shouldn’t cry even Tisha B’av. They are way too depressive, and the crying business can be detrimental, Chas V'shalom. They need to spend these days doing Teshuva on: תַחַתּ בָבֵל בוּטְבוּ הָחְמִשְׂבּ ˃יֶק˄ֱא 'ה תֶא ָתְּדַבָﬠ אֹל רֶשֲׁאתבא כח מז serving Hashem without enough Simcha. They may need to go extreme, and almost totally forget about any sadness during this Matzav. Of course with a Rebbe, who is monitoring your actions.
Even during Eicha and Kinos, these people keep writing down the happy things going on in their lives, as many as possible, especially their own greatness and that Hashem hurts them because they have super lofty souls, and they need to be tested in order to save Klal Yisroel with their pain and difficulties.
