Nosson Wachtfogel Zatzal said that Elul is the worst time to break off with a Chavrusa, even if it is important to break off. מ דָהֶּטוֹבָהֶֶּּ מְּרוּבָה Imagine how much goodness comes about from Ayin Tova! I would recommend writing a giant: מַעֲרָכָה essay about your own Maalos during Elul.
R' Yosef Leib Bloch Zatzal says (in the name of Chasidim) that a person can write himself in the: סֵּפ רֶּהַחַי ים Book of Life by sticking up for himself! Like Raban Gamliel, who saved himself from a storm at sea, by explaining and defending himself to Hashem. (Gemara). The Alter of Slabodka was very involved in having an Ayin Tova during Y'mei HaDin V’haRachamim. Work hard to keep away from all criticism (including self-criticism) these days, unless there is a positive Tachlis. Simcha, Ayin Tova, Bitachon, and thankfulness, can do more than anything to help a person be Zoche B'din. Live and let live!
Beware of the frummer Yetzer Hara, who always tries to pull you down and focus all day on your sins and mistakes and shortcomings. Be extra careful to work on Ka'as (anger). The more you are: סוֹבֵֶּּלֶּ (accept) and are patient and tolerant of others and yourself, the more Hashem will understand you, and give you a great new year. And remember again and again, as long as you try, and have pain for not being the way you should be despite your efforts, you can be insured that you’ll be Zoche to: כָלֶֶּּ טוּבֶּס לָה all good forever.
If you have any brains, you go around in Elul always saying how great are “those Chassidim”, “that Yeshiva”, “BMG”, “all the kids”, etc. and then you’ll be Zoche B'din. Be extra careful to avoid Din (being tough and strict). They say that the only one who could be Osek in tough Din was the Alter of Slabodka. All those who tried to copy him got into trouble. R' Yisroel Salanter Zatzal points out how Rabbi Akiva’s Tefilos were answered, since B’shita (officially) he was: מַעֲב ירֶּ עַלֶּ מ דוֹתָיו easygoing and forgiving, and Rabbi Eliezer’s weren’t answered because B’shita he could be tough.
יְהִי רָצוֹן שֶׁנִזְכֶׁה לִכְתִיבָה וַחֲתִימָה טוֹבָה
