A Yungerman from Bnei Brak had terrible Kin'ah on his younger brother, who was a famous Rosh Yeshiva with a beautiful family. He had no job, and a problematic family. He was told to write down 5 of his Maalos over his brother. Especially that his brother didn’t seem to have Yissurim, and Chazal say that if 40 days go by without Yissurim, then: ִק ֵבּי ל עוֹ ָלוֹמ you lost your Olam HaBah!
Also, a higher Neshama gets more tests, like we find: ויָנָבוּ בֹקֲﬠַי םִיָרְצִמ וּדְרָי Yaakov went into Galus Mitzrayim, and Eisav had an easy life. A low and simple Neshama can’t handle, tests so Hashem gives him an easy life (P.S. If things are easy for you, don’t worry; you’ll be okay!) And he did these types of things for a week, until he looked down on his brother as a nebach! When his brother told him a Shtikel Torah, he praised him and encouraged him, like you treat a person who needs Chizuk and you have Rachmanus on him. His brother blushed, and was so happy! By the way, “envy is ignorance”, and who knows the truth about his brother. You can always suspect that the person you envy may have much more pain in his life than you, and he’s just a big act, since the Yetzer Hara wants to test you.
When you are intimidated by people, sometimes you have to say to yourself: “Leave him alone, he’s just a human! And just like you have your Meshugasim, so does he!” You have to realize that Hashem purposely makes people look intimidating and weird, and maybe too Chashuv, and different than each other, just to test us.
