For example: You’re taking your family to a vacation spot for a week. You (perhaps rightfully) don’t view it as a luxury, but as a necessity; both you and your rebbetzin had a challenging year, and the break is crucial for your wellbeing. Of course, skipping davening ch”v is not an option. But to find a minyan (let alone a mikva) can pose so many scheduling and logistical challenges that it just doesn’t make sense. It’s not a matter of running after taavos, or anything of that sort ch”v. But you need to live normally, - to be able to exist normally. So, essentially, you come to the conclusion that you need to very slightly push aside those rules of shulchan aruch that acutely disturb your existence.
But this reasoning is faulty. For your existence is not an end to itself, but merely a means to an end. You exist for one purpose: - to enable you to be botul – subservient – to Hashem, thus enabling Him to fulfill His whim to be a King. Therefore, how can it be possible that your subservience to Hashem should be minimized or compromised in order to allow you to live a more complete existence?! Only if our existence helps Him in His desires is our “job” – our whole existence – justified.
