Sometimes our children may seem far away. We may feel hurt, loss, rejection, anger, sadness. But we need to put our personal feelings aside and show our unconditional love. Indeed, it is the child that makes it hardest to love, that needs our love the most.
The unconditional love that we give and continue to share and express to them, is the most important thing that we can give. Without it, who knows where they could end up.
Wherever they are at and wherever they are, deep in their heart they know that their parents genuinely love and care for them, unconditionally. They will carry this with them as they go on their own path and it will anchor them and hopefully keep them safe.
The Gemara teaches that in the future, Hashem will come to Avraham and say “your children have sinned against Me”. Avraham will respond “Let them be erased to sanctify Your Name.” Hashem will go to Yaakov, who experienced the pains of raising children, perhaps he will ask for mercy on their behalf. Yaakov too will say “Let them be erased to sanctify Your Name.”
Finally Hashem will come to Yitzchak, who will respond “Master of the World, are they my children and not Your children? Just as You called them Your child when they accepted the Torah at Har Sinai, they are still Your child even if they have sinned.”
Reb Meir of Premishlan explains why Yitzchak will be the one to appease Hashem’s anger. Yitzchak will tell Hashem “I, a mere mortal, had a son who rebelled and still I loved him. You, who are a merciful and compassionate, certainly you should love your children Yisroel, even if they have sinned”.
This is the meaning of the verse ויאהב יצחק את עשו כי ציד בפיו. With this, that Yitzchak loved Eisav, he will ensnare Hashem with his mouth in his defence of the Jewish people, that Hashem should always love them with the unconditional love as a father loves their child.
By loving each of our children unconditionally, we will cause Hashem to do the same, so that even if we are in Golus because of our sins, He will bring us back home and shower us with love.
