He told me that he tried many other tricks to console himself. But nothing worked except this. Many times, Hashem just wants you to learn how to accept things you don’t like, and this is the biggest Mitzva and it relaxes you. Learn to accept red lights in your life! Look how Avraham Avinu had to wait 100 years until he was Zoche to children!
The holy Am Yisroel was built on the tremendous patience of Avraham and Sara, who watched all those successful families growing and expanding and they have zero! People made fun of Avraham Avinu and called him a barren mule. (Chazal). זוַֹתוֹר הַוְזוַֹשְׂכ ר הּ Is this the reward for someone who keeps the Torah? This is what you get for being such a Tzadik and a Baal Chesed? Look at the iron patience that he had! The ability to accept what you don’t like; we all need to learn this. We were born to see if we can tolerate all those many “no’s” in our lives.
Like the Chovos Halvavos says at the end of Shaar HaBitachon: מֵַעוֹל ַםַלַֹאַַה ַשְַכ ַמְַת ַיַלְַד ַב ַרַוְַה ַתְַא ַוֵית ַיַלְַזוּל ַתוֹ. I never woke up to one situation and wished that it was different! The more you learn how to accept all those “no’s” in your life, the more you will get in the end. Notice how Avraham Avinu was Zoche to be: אַב הֲמוֹן גּוֹיִּם the father of all the nations.
R' Nosson Wachtfogel Zatzal said that a person has to learn how to be: סוֹבֵַלַ tolerate a situation, and to be: סוַֹבֵַל tolerate yourself is also a job. Accept yourself! Despite all your Meshugasim, mistakes, forgetfulness, sins, weaknesses in Ruchaniyus and Gashmiyus and idiosyncrasies! אֵיזֶׁהוַּע ש ירַה ש מֵח ַבְחֶׁלְקוַֹ Who is considered truly rich? One who is content with what he has. The more you accept, the greater you become!
