Hashem Gives Us Tremendous Schar When We Accept All Kinds of Disappointments

וְהִנֵּה הִיא לֵּאָה (כט כה)

The Plan B That You Tried So Hard to Avoid Is Min HaShamayim and All L'tovah

Yaakov is all out for Davka marrying Rochel, and he specified: רָחֵּל בִּתְךָ הַקְּטַנָּה (כט יח) "Rochel, your younger daughter", to be double sure that he doesn't get tricked by Lavan. And he also gives special Simanim that only Rochel knows so he is totally protected and guaranteed to get Rochel and not Leah. And in the end... it's Leah! Surprise! Surprise! What a cruel, practical, sadistic, joke! R' Chatzkel Levenstein Zatzal points out how Yaakov doesn't even get upset, and he just asks (without anger): וְלָמָה רִמִּיתָנִי why did you trick me?

Even this question, is just to "go through the motions" of asking an obvious question, but without getting excited at all. R' Chatzkel Zatzal says that by Yaakov there was no Rochel or Leah or Lavan or anything, since he was real about: אֵין עוֹד מִלְבַדּוֹ there exists nothing other than Hashem! It's all Min HaShamayim and all L'tovah. He is now stuck with a plan B that he tried so hard to avoid.

In my shul on Shabbos, I bentch Rosh Chodesh; and as soon as I came to shul, I thought of a new Niggun for: יְחַדְּשֵׁהוּ. I was excited over it, and I kept Chazzering (reviewing) it. In the end, I forgot the Niggun, and instead I had a plan B Niggun, but I accepted my disappointment. Hashem rewarded me for my acceptance of the plan B Niggun, and recently my Vaad sang an unusually Geshmake warm Niggun, which never happened before.

Hashem Gives Us Tremendous Schar When We Accept All Kinds of Disappointments

An old Novardoker wanted a certain Chashuva Bachur for his daughter, and despite all his Tefilos and coaxing, she insisted on another Bachur who seemed much less Chashuv. I remember how he kept repeating how it's all Min HaShamayim, and he worked hard on being Davka satisfied with the "plan B" Bachur. In the end, this plan B Bachur started Shteiging, and he became the pride of the family.

I would venture to say that the reason why Yaakov was Zoche to the: י"ב שִׁבְטֵי קָהּ twelve holy Shevotim, the biggest giants and Tzaddikim in Klal Yisroel, was because he was so accepting to plan B (the surprise of Leah). The same with all of us who are often tested with all kinds of plan B's; our family, our Parnasa, our level of growth. Hashem gives us tremendous Schar when we accept all kinds of disappointments and turn a Bedi'eved into a Le'chatchila, as if we really want our depressing and painful plan B's.

There is no end to the Schar בָּזֶה וּבַבָּא (in this world and in the next) of a person who is M'vatel his Ratzon to the Ratzon of the: בּוֹרֵא עוֹלָם Creator of the world, and the more he decides (with a Shtoltz) that "I love my plan B", the more He is relaxed, and Hashem is M'vatel the Ratzon of others to his Ratzon.

Bitachon is all about learning how to be "held up" from your plans and wishes, and being happy without limit, since it's Hashem's Ratzon to delay.