This coming week, Monday, is the 14th of Kislev, which marks the wedding anniversary of our dear Rebbe and Rebbetzin OB”M.
Our Sages taught of the importance of "Shalom Bayit" - peace and harmony in one's marriage. Thus, we are enjoined to be of the disciples of Aaron, for he loved peace and pursued peace, bringing peace between two friends and between a husband and wife.
In the Rebbe's personal correspondence, the greatness of Shalom Bayit is emphasised, as well as practical advice on how to achieve a peaceful, harmonious relationship.
In one letter, the Rebbe writes that Chassidus emphasises that a person is created with a right eye and a left eye. The right eye teaches that one must always look at another Jew (and obviously and most importantly, one's spouse) with a good eye, to see what is best and nicest in him/her, etc.
In another letter, the Rebbe reminds the person of the adage that "charity begins at home." The Rebbe was referring to his newly initiated (at that time) campaign of Ahavat Yisrael — loving one's fellow Jew and that the person should make sure to implement this "campaign" at home with his spouse.
The Rebbe suggests, in another letter, that the couple take a "second honeymoon" which would rectify the entire situation.
In many of the letters, the Rebbe reminds the recipients of the importance of conducting their lives in general and the relationship of the husband and wife in particular, in accordance with the Torah and mitzvot as they affect their daily lives.
May we very soon merit the ultimate Shalom Bayit at the complete reunion of G-d (the husband) and the Jewish people (the wife) with the revelation of Moshiach, NOW!
