I got a telephone call from a Yungerman who met me around Tisha B’av time. He had told me then that he has a son who has a serious physical problem, and in all probability he’ll never get married. He’s already 27 with zero Shiduchim redd to him, Rachmana Litzlan.
It was barely three months later, and now his son had become a Chosson! He was calling me to thank me for the Shidduch, since as soon as he met me, things started changing. I asked him what I had said that made such a positive: וֹר ֶשׁם impression. He replied: First of all, you were very emphatic about never, never saying: “In all probability my son will never get married!”
“Also, you told me to speak positively all day, about how “My son actually WILL get happily married”, and to keep making believe that things are okay, although inside you feel just the opposite”. He told me that he took me very seriously, and he listened to everything I told him to do.
A rule: The more serious you take Bitachon, the further you go! And you get credit for the: וֹמ ֵפ ת wonder you will bring about. I have brought about unusual Nissim with Hashem’s help, even when I was dealing with skeptics. But in those cases, only I get the credit, and the skeptic isn’t Zoche to the Gevaldige Zechus of being an: ָﬠ ֵמ ֶבּ ל ֱאמוּ ָנה Emuna plugger.
This wasn’t Stam a Shidduch; it was a top, top: ְמצוּ ֶי ֶנת exceptional girl who had a very slight handicap, which was nowhere near the severe handicap of his son. Yet, she couldn’t care less! Nissim Glu’yim! Notice how I was M'chazek a Bachur, and I told him that despite his family issue he can still get a normal Shidduch, and an hour later Hashem shows me (in a different case) how true my words are! Remember: םִיַתָפְשַׂל הָתוּרְכּ תיִרְבּ א חי ק"ומ, סנהדרין קב א Your words will have an affect!
How important it is to speak only positive words! They affect the entire atmosphere, and produce only goodness for yourself and for the entire world! Your words have plenty of echoes! Bring light to Hashem’s beautiful world, instead of being a negative kvetch
