I once knew a couple where the spouse was even downright dangerous for the children. I encouraged the husband to realize that there are three: פִּתָוּשין partners in a marriage (the husband, wife, and Hashem) and Hashem should always be made the Ikar of Ikarim, especially in his case. He stopped dealing with his wife (who was perpetually “out to lunch” anyway), and he started a real relationship with Hashem.
Instead of arguing with his wife, he Davka spoke to Hashem instead, and explained: “Hashem, my spouse is not: נוֹגֵעַ (capable) to understand the Matzav, and since there are three: שוּתָפִּין partners in a marriage, can I please make You more and more in charge of everything?” He almost ignored his spouse completely, and he spent lots of time with Hashem, and in the end he got everything that he wanted!
It’s impossible to understand Yitzchok and Rivka. But in our mentality, perhaps this is exactly how they did things; everything is Hashem, and very little communication is necessary. This Yungerman was Gevaldig Matzliach with his children, and I know a woman who did a similar M'halech, since her husband wasn’t marriage material, whatsoever. Today, all his kids are: נִּיָצֻּם superstars!
Constantly ignore and overlook, and have Bitachon without worry. Then things will smooth out and problems will disappear.
