When people experience pain, they feel it’s a: מִקְּרֶׁה coincidence “It happened by itself”. Actually, Hashem, who loves you, has to give you a potch to straighten you out. When there is a plan and a reason for your pain, and it’s given from a beloved father in Shamayim, then it hurts much less. I once saw R' Nosson Wachtfogel Zatzal having a physical problem, and he told me that he felt like he's getting a Potch from his Father (who loves you and cares for you) and He knows what He's doing.
Those who view the happenings of their lives as happenstance (קֶׁרִ י ), suffer the most, and they are missing Emuna. My friend, Mr. Wechselbaum Zatzal (from Lakewood) was a Polish Yid who had been in a concentration camp. A non-frum Jew saw him by the morning count, davening with his shirt thrown over his head. He told him how lucky he is, that at least he has a religion. There is a plan and purpose for his suffering from Hashem, and not just pain for nothing, Rachmana Litzlan.
