Dont try to talk yourself out of your feelings

By Sarah Chana Radcliffe

There’s no such thing as "I shouldn't feel this way." We feel whatever we feel. Trying to stop a feeling that IS happening simply ADDS another bad feeling (like shame, guilt or self-loathing). The best way to help ease our distress is to acknowledge and accept it. "Yes, I am feeling hurt/upset/resentful/etc." Once acknowledged, a feeling starts to release and heal. Keep in mind that all feelings do, in fact, make sense to the part of us that holds them. There IS a reason we feel the way we do. Another part of us may understand the situation or behavior of another party and that's great but understanding happens in a different part of our brain than FEELING happens in. We can still feel distress even when we understand the reality of a situation.