QUESTION
I am very confused in how to improve in my avodas Hashem. Is there any path I can take in avodas Hashem that is structured and clear, which I can implement in my daily schedule? For men it seems to much clearer on what to do and how to live, because men have Torah learning. But for women, it’s not so clear, when it comes to what the path in their avodas Hashem should be. And I am very bothered by those who have told me, “Just be all day in the kitchen, and that’s it.” Women have much more spiritual feelings, and this is a very unsatisfying answer.
ANSWER
It is recommended that you learn the series about the “4 Elements”, so that you can become familiar with your personal element. Accordingly, you will then know what you need to personally focus on in your avodas Hashem. Besides for having a strong and truthful desire to improve – which you already have – you also need to become clear about your soul, and accordingly, you need a structure in your avodas Hashem which will correspond to that [fixing your most imbalanced element].
