You Get Much Further with Honey Than with Bees

A PERSON NEEDS TO SEE THE GOOD EVEN IN A BAD MATZAV

FASCINATING STORY

Someone came over to me around ten years ago, a woman who had been divorced (a very messy divorce with a lot of heartache) and she was a very broken-hearted person. After 5 years, she is remarried, with children, and she has children from the first. Her husband had been supporting her for 5 years. Then, one day he decided no more. She called me up crying “Look what's going on. Now he's hurting me again!”

I said “The next time you meet him, don’t say a word about his not-giving you. Instead, say thank you for all the years that he did give you. Nothing more, nothing less. Just say thank you for all the good years”. Two days later she called me up. She did just that, and on the spot, he wrote her a check for the future. You get much further with honey than with bees.

This is the way you work with people. You work with Guttn’s (goodness). You don’t berate, you don’t start getting angry, you don’t start screaming, etc. You go along with the person. You understand; you recall the good part. This is what we need to do in our own lives.