Question: I was in the dentist office and I heard people saying how challenging this year has been and how they are hoping for a good judgement for the coming year. As Rosh Hashanah approaches, it doesn’t take much to trigger my anxiety. I imagine standing before the Heavenly Court, with every action of the past year measured. I worry about my family, our health, our livelihood. How can I approach these days with peace of mind?
Answer: Your feelings are understandable, and many share them. Yet, while it is true we are being judged on Rosh Hashana, Chassidus teaches that our perspective on Rosh Hashanah should be one of confidence and joy.
The Tur (Orach Chaim 581) writes that usually when a person faces judgment, he wears black, lets his beard and nails grow, and is filled with dread, not knowing the outcome of his judgement. But before Rosh Hashanah we do the opposite: we wear white, cut our hair and nails, and celebrate with festive meals.
Why? Because we trust that Hashem will do miracles for us and grant us a good year.
The Rebbe explains that this approach flows from bitachon—absolute trust in Hashem’s kindness - like a son who truly believes his father will generously provide for his needs. When we trust Hashem will provide for us with revealed goodness, that very trust opens the channel for those blessings to be revealed.
The central focus of Rosh Hashanah is less on the judgment and more on the coronation of Hashem as King. The essence of a holiday can be seen in its Kiddush. On Rosh Hashanah we say: “Blessed are You, Lord, King over all the earth...” The theme is Hashem’s Kingship. Our task is to joyfully accept His sovereignty and desire to fulfill His will.
The shofar gives voice to this: a raw, wordless cry rising from the depth of the soul, proclaiming, “Hashem, all I want is You!” This is the essence of the day, and through this comes the blessing of a good and sweet year.
When you feel afraid, replace your thoughts with trust. Remember all the good Hashem has done for you and believe He will continue to do so. Whereas anxiety and fear clogs the channels of blessing, trust and joy opens the channels and leads to a sweet new year.
Aharon Schmidt, marriage & individual counseling: www.aharonschmidt.com.
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