Sometimes, there’s a situation where no one will offer you help, because no one knows of your predicament. There, too, we will see that true ba’alei bitachon will be helped in a manner above nature. Even if a person isn’t yet on this level, he can become accustomed to asking others for help, but in an aloof manner... ensuring that his nefesh doesn’t feel completely reliant upon them.
Many times, we see that a person in need approaches another person, and pushes him into a corner: “I am telling you that I have no choice... you’re the only one who can help me... I have no one else. This person is relying on humans in the fullest senses of the matter. He proclaims as much.
Why should a Yid speak this way? This is the opposite of emunah. It’s ironic to see how this person will even recite Tehillim before approaching another person, hoping to be successful in convincing that person to help him. If you understand that the Ribbono shel Olam loves you, and that only He can help you, then you wouldn’t place so much pressure on another person.
You would understand that if this person denies you, then your salvation will come from elsewhere. You would view the entire mehalech of asking for a favor as though it’s a mission from Hashem, just like we do any other hishtadlus. Maybe it’s bashert that this person will do it for me, and maybe it isn’t. Perhaps it is his zechus to help another Yid, and perhaps not—just as the Ribbono shel Olam designed things so that the poor bring merit to the wealthy. But if he doesn’t want to help me, it doesn’t touch me in the slightest—I continue on my way, with my complete bitachon intact.
