STORY: A Yungerman from Australia with twelve normal, healthy, total-Nachas children wrote me a 30-page letter about the pain he has since his wife is having all kinds of trouble in having more children. He is trying all kinds of Eitzos and getting Brachos from R' Chaim Kanievsky (Shlita) Zatzal and many others, and he is super frustrated since he’s getting no place.
I have seen many childless couples, and it is striking how both these types suffer just as much. I knew an old Talmid Chochom who had a beautiful family with loads of Einiklach all major Metzuyanim (top learners), and he himself was a super accomplished person. Yet, he was very bitter because he felt that his learning wasn’t up to par, despite his great Hasmada. A person is as happy as he makes up his mind to be!
Nobody can tell person what to think. Your mind is totally in your own Reshus (control), and you can turn your life into a Gan Eden just by always thinking happy thoughts, and not focusing on other people, with all the jealousies and Redifas HaKavod that kills all the fun.
