We need to be this way with ourselves also. Chazal explain when it says: "וַיִּשְׁכַּב רְאוּבֵן אֶת בִּלְהָה" (Vayishlach 35:22) it doesn't mean literally, Chas V'shalom. Just according to the lofty Madrega of Reuven, even a slight Aveira is looked at as if he did something much more drastic. The same way, when we are dealing with broken and depressed people, which can be typical of our generation, we need to be Dan L'kaf Zechus a lot.
Yaakov told Rochel: "הֲתַחַת אֱלֹקִים אָנֹכִי" "Am I Hashem??" and the Seforno says that when Yaakov heard Rochel say: "הָבָה לִּי בָנִים וְאִם אַיִן מֵתָה אָנֹכִי" "Give me children, or else I will die!" he felt she was bordering on K'fira, Chas V'shalom (since her words implied that the power to grant children rests with Yaakov). Yet, Chazal stick up for Rochel and have a Tayna on Yaakov: "כָּךְ עוֹנִין אֶת הַמְּעוּקוֹת" "Is this how you speak to a broken person??"
