וַיֵּצֵּא יַעֲקֹב מִבְּאֵּר שָׁבַע וַיֵּלֶךְ חָׁרָׁנָׁה
Yaakov left Be’er Sheva and went to Charan [Bereishis 28:10]
Midrash Rabba (68:2) teaches that on his journey to Charan, Yaakov Avinu said: אֶשָּׂא עֵינַי אֶל הֶהָּׂרִ ים מֵאַיִן יָּׂבֹא עֶזְרִ י - I raise my eyes...where will my עֶזְרִ י come from? [Tehillim 121:2] (As insightful side note, peirush Maharzu says that all 15 of Shir Hama’alos in Tehillim originated from Yaakov Avinu.) The Midrash explains that עֶזְּרִ י (lit. helper) that Yaakov was asking about was his future wife. As we know, the Torah refers to Adam’s wife as עֵּזֶר כְנֶגְדּוֹ. After asking himself the question “where will my עֶזְרִ י come from”, Yaakov answered to himself: עֶזְרִ י מֵעִם ה' - My עֶזְרִ י will come from Hashem.
Then, the Midrash expounds on the concept of finding one’s zivug:
“Rabbi Avahu began the drasha with a verse from Mishlei [19:14]: “A house and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, but a wise woman is from Hashem.”
“Rebbi Pinchas said in the name of Rebbi Avahu: We find in Torah, in Prophets and in Writings that a man’s wife is [given to him] only from [the direct hashgacha of] HaKadosh Boruch Hu.
“From where do we learn it in the Torah? From the verse (Bereishis 24) “Lavan and Besuel answered and said: The matter came from Hashem.”
“In the Prophets, in learn it from the verse (Shoftim 14:4) “And his father and mother did not know that it was from Hashem...”.
“In the Writings, we learn it from the verse (Mishlei 19:14) “A house and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, but a wise woman is from Hashem.”
Eitz Yosef explains the last part of that Midrash in the following way: טובת האשה אינו במקרה אלא מה ‘אשה משכלת - The virtues of one’s wife are not by chance. Rather, “A wise woman is from Hashem.”
With this we can understand what the Midrash said initially: “A man’s wife is only from [direct hashgacha of] HaKadosh Boruch Hu.” — i.e., Everything about a man’s wife is a gift to him from the Ribbono Shel Olam.
