GREAT STORIES
This story happened a while ago in an out-of-town community, where a person’s wife was making him crazy. Her therapist was telling her that he’s not for her, and that she should get divorced. This therapist was very powerful, and she got the wife to turn against him. In addition, the therapist got all the children (even the married ones) to go against him. They got divorced, and this man was bitter and angry... until he called me.
I told him that it won’t help him to be angry. I advised him to start anew; and start “chilling” and to be happy. Be Mochel everyone, and ask all those wicked people involved for forgiveness, including the therapist, and his wife and kids. Like they say in Novardok, they aren’t: מוֹדֶ הֵ עַ לֵ הָ אֶ מֶ ת (admit to the truth), rather they are: מוֹדֶ הֵ עַ לֵ הַ שֶ קֶ ר i.e., to admit you did wrong even when you didn’t, like Dovid HaMelech who said he was wrong, even though Chazal say: כָלֵ הָ אוֹמ רֵ דָ וִׁדֵ חָ טָ אֵא ינוֵֹאֶ לָ אֵטוֹעֶ הֵֵֵשבתֵנוֵא Dovid never did any sin whatsoever.
This man took to me, and he became a new person. Everyone was so surprised that he was being so happy and humble and not angry. Then, he began looking for a Shidduch, and he was Zoche to a Chashuva and Ehrlicher woman from an outstanding family, and she adored him. She was bombarded by many people (including the therapist) not to go into this Shidduch, but she didn’t listen. This new wife is a jewel, and they are super happily married, with Hashem’s help. She also liked his kids, and made peace so they should get back to their father.
The greatness of the story is because many people blame therapists for destroying homes. But big Baalei Bitachon don’t talk like that. I say that Hashem is in charge. We were born to take care of our Middos, and many Gedolim testify that indeed, therapists can be quite dangerous. Hashem is testing us to see if we are going to be angry at people. People view a therapist as very powerful Koach, and they can change people’s views. But when you live with Hashem and have true Yiras Shamayim, people aren’t scary ogres in your mind.
