Now, let us direct our attention to a specific aspect of shidduchim. After one engages in the chessed aspect—to redt and suggest shidduchim without hesitation or embarrassment—and after one engages in tefillah, if we see that the yeshuah doesn’t arrive... what can we do to weaken the power of the מקטרגים who block the tefillos and chessed activities for shidduchim? After all, we see that, unfortunately, they have some success in this! It is so painful to see people struggle with shidduchim, and we have no choice but to do everything in our power to weaken the מקטרגים.
And so, there’s a well-known yesod, a great yesod, but it must be properly understood. Everyone knows the Chazal (Bava Kamma 92a) המבקש כל תחילה, נענה הוא דבר לאותו צריך והוא חבירו על רחמים one who davens for a friend, and he needs that very same thing, he will be answered first—and the Gemara cites two sources for this.
