Very often, the families’ Hashkafos (opinions) are "be confident in yourself and don't be a wimp!" "Stick up for your rights!".
At the Shabbos table, parents should glorify Hachna'a and Anava and try to model it. Believing in the Ma'ala of Anava is a Hashkafa of paramount importance. In Novardok you got Kavod and were praised for being a M'vater!
Although we don't understand Korach, or L'havdil, Bilam, one thing is clear: These Parshiyos are a message for us to be Machshiv Anava since all these people who complain and kvetch and curse etc. are all lacking in K'niya. A person who has Hachna'a understands people who are different than him, different Shitos, or Talmidim who are much younger and from a different generation. Novardokers make sure to understand the mentality of their students.
I know a Yungerman who finishes Shaar HaK’niya and it relaxes him and cheers him up. Many people who spend loads of time learning Shaar HaBitachon who are frustrated since they aren't getting what they want, may need to add Shaar HaK’niya to their Mussar Seder since it gives Menucha and acceptance, and it is a "first cousin" to Bitachon.
A Lev Nishbar is a gold-mine. When a person is broken, he is warm and caring, and loves others. He is understanding, humble, and pleasant, and in the end, he wins. Nobody likes a big shot Baal Ga'ava, and they have no Chen (charm)
