Faith and Gratitude
Every one of us can learn how to light a flame in the darkness. The first step is to say—even if we aren’t feeling like it—“The Ribbono Shel Olam has designed my situation with precision. It has nothing to do with anything around me. It has nothing to do with this other person, and it has nothing to do with anything I did. I have to learn to let go! The Ribbono Shel Olam designed it this way for good reason, and everything is certainly for the good.”
This is the first step—to be strong enough to say this, even if we’re absolutely not feeling it. We must muster all our courage and strength to say the words forcefully.
The second, more difficult step is to even thank the Ribbono Shel Olam for the situation—as Chazal have taught us: One is obligated to give thanks for the bad just as he does for the good.
