It's a Goyishe mentality, that the only world you’re in, is here. I asked R' Matisyahu, how do you deal with Yissurim. He told me: There’s two worlds! If you only have one world, it’s a Rachmanus on you. It’s a Rachmanus that you aren’t involved in the next world. You are not going to be here forever. How will you deal with death? You will both disappear one day! So if you are so angry now, how will you deal with death? You have to learn: “It’s tough!” And deep down, the complaints can have a lot of Kavod involved, the drive to succeed, and to get everything you want, etc.
SOME PEOPLE LOVE NOT GETTING EVERYTHING THEY WANT! Like Esther. Do you want to be an Esther and Mordechai, who gave up everything for the Klal? Or do you want to be someone who is “tancing (dancing) along” through life? Do you want to be the REAL thing? Or to be Bedi'eved? I know. I know that you don’t want to be the real thing. But Hashem thinks highly of you; that’s why he gave you such a Nisayon. He considers you people to be Ahron HaCohen material.
And IF you brainwash yourself long enough in this way of thinking, it simply won’t mean a thing to you. You will walk around as it nothing happened, nothing at all. But it has to do with the way you think. The problem is that you were taught to thing negatively, and when things happen, to get worse, and to kvetch. People say: Oh, they’re not the same. Look at what they went through, it’s because of that! I knew a Yid who went through the Nazi Holocaust (we should never know of it). His name was R' Gershon Liebman; I never saw a happier person. They say that during the Holocaust he was even happier, since he had to learn even more Mussar! Brainwash yourself in the right ways of thinking, and avoid all the people who tell you NEBACH!!! NEBACH!!! Avoid all the “nebach-nebach” people; they’ll destroy you. They’ll teach you: Oy, that’s terrible! How can Hashem do that! Be angry at Hashem! Wait! And the fact that you were born, means nothing to you?? YOU NEED A WHOLE NEW BRAINWASHING. And then you’ll be happier than people with a hundred kids.
It’s all in your head. Avrohom Avinu had no kids for a hundred years. R' Kushelevsky had no kids for 87 years. You have who to learn from. Now there’s no excuses. The problems come from not learning Mussar. You're still busy finishing Shas, with no Mussar. And if you are already learning Mussar, you are not learning the RIGHT Mussar, i.e., the Mussar that YOU need, the Mussar that makes you happy, and laugh at the world who are all kvetching and going to war. Everyone’s killing each other, everyone’s reading horrible news... Want to be one of them? Join the world! It’s not so much fun. Be like R' Matisyahu said. He accepted his Tzaros because he knew there’s another world.
Then you will say: “Who cares?” You just lost all your Gehinom! You should be dancing! Gehinom is not an issue for you? Do you know what Gehinom is? It’s worse than a hundred Hamas’s. And you just lost it! Because of him! You should thank that child for the rest of your life! He took away our Gehinom! He should be the star of the family.
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