Rashi says that Yehuda was very tough with Yosef, and he threatened to kill him and Paroh together. Chazal say that Yehuda was ready to destroy the entire Mitzrayim and he started issuing orders to his super strong brothers. Yet, in the Pesukim we see tremendous Eidelkeit. He keeps calling Yosef: יִנֹדֲא my master, and himself and his brothers and his father: ˃ְדְּבַע your slave. He speaks with warmth and caring, soft as butter. The true Anav who is capable to be tough, but he isn’t.
Why doesn’t Yehuda just finish him off? He and his brothers had destroyed many Canaani cities; they were all highly successful: יֵדְמֻּלְמ הָמָחְלִמ seasoned fighters. Why do they hesitate? Why should they even be: וֹג ֵר ס (notice) such an evil royal tyrant, whom they thought Yosef was? The answer is that in last week’s Parsha they said: ˄ֱאָה ִק ןוֲֹע תֶא אָצָמ םי ˃יֶדָבֲע זט דמ Hashem has found the place to collect payment for our sin, and: הָשָׂע תאֹזּ הַמ ˄ֱא ִקוּנָל םי מב כח Why is Hashem doing this to us? All they talked about was their: ַח ַשׁ שׁ fear that Hashem was punishing them for the only sin they ever did, i.e.: ְמ ִכ ַרית יוֹ ֵסף selling their brother Yosef for a slave.
The True Emuna in Hashem: People Cannot Help You or Harm You; Only Hashem Can
This behavior is what Dovid HaMelech was famous for, and it was the #1 Zechus that Dovid had in his entire life, since it earned him to become the: ֶר ֶג ְר ל ִב ִעי ֶשׁ י ְבּ ֶמ ְר ָכּ ָב ה fourth pedestal of the Heavenly chariot. When the Rosh Sanhedrin, Shim'i ben Gera cursed him and threw stones at him, Dovid said: רַמָא 'ה יִכּ לֵלַּק וֹל ש"ב זט י “It is all from Hashem”, instead of killing him. This is the opposite of Sin’as Chinam, and it is the true Emuna in Hashem. You realize what the Chovos Halvavos is constantly stressing: אָרְבִנַה ןִמ קֶזֶנַהְו תֶלֶעוֹתַּה ןיֵא
