This incredible yesod is not only for people from illustrious stock. A person must view the situation in the following way: HaKadosh Baruch Hu gave me this pain, and because I have this pain, I possess keys that not everyone else has. Through my experience, I can daven for this yeshuah in a way that few others can—because my understanding of it is so much deeper. My pain... my yearning for the tzarah to go away... is felt by me more than by anyone else. And why did the Ribbono shel Olam give it to me? Aside from the individual calculation for a tzarah, there is another cheshbon: Now I can daven for this as no one else can, and I have the keys to chambers that others do not.
Utilizing the Opportunity
Sometimes, we tell a person to daven for a certain inyan. This person will never be able to daven for that the same way a person who understands the pain will daven. He will never approach with that brokenness... with that humility before the Ribbono shel Olam, the way a person who has been tested will come.
He doesn’t mind davening for others. Sure! What’s his name? I’ll daven for him. Often, people go to mekomos hakedoshim, and they publicize that people should send names. It’s wonderful.... But they don’t get the pain that others are going through. They don’t have the brokenness, the humility, and the dependence on the Ribbono shel Olam the way someone who has experienced that pain does.
But when someone is in the same matzav and he knows the pain, his understanding is very different—and he has the power to open wide the chambers in his heart, and by extension the corresponding chambers Above that others cannot.
