Every Person Needs His Own Unique Avodas Hashem

Here’s a super nice person, but his wife loses respect for him and he’s having serious Shalom Bayis problems because he has no back bone. And since he doesn’t respect himself, nobody else respects him. I told him that he needs heavy-duty Novardoker: אַ מִ יצוּת courage; i.e., not to need people. This is a major Avodas HaMiddos that he ignores, and he suffers as a result.

I knew giants in Avodas Hashem who were: לַ או דַ וְ קָ א not necessarily so nice to everyone. One of them said: “If I decide to be a nice person and socialize more, then the world will lose an Adam Gadol, because he’ll lose his learning”. Every person needs his own unique Avodas Hashem. With a Rebbe who guides you and lots of Tefila, you’ll succeed.