In Novardok, they took apart each individual, and one person could be given the opposite message of his friend. The “super-soft” or gullible person needs to learn how to assert himself and be tough, and how to achieve a ‘backbone’. The “tough-guy” needs to learn how to open his heart and have compassion for others. They turn into opposite types when they work on their personal, unique evil, and are both belonging in the same Passuk.
Here we have a person with loads of self-esteem (like people from 100 years ago). He needs a Chazal like: מְאֹד מְאֹד הֱוֵּי שְׁ פַל רוּחַ אבות ד ד be a big Anav, and he may need to Chazzer (review) it all his life. Yet, despite all his hard work learning Shaar HaK’niya and always saying "I'm less than everyone”, he may still have lots of internal Ga’ava; but by doing his best, Hashem will give him great rewards.
