One day, I was on the way home, and davened again and again for bigger Yeshuos and much more Klal work, etc. As soon as I came home, I got a call from a woman who had called me two days ago about her husband who was at the verge of leaving Kollel and going into business, since Kollel life was too stressful for him. His wife had been davening for years that he learn: ב ְּה ְּת ְּמ ְּד ְּהְּ ר ְּב ְּהְּ (with great Hasmada) and become a Gadol, etc.
I told her #1 – stop davening! Instead, say for 5 minutes a day how happy you are that he is so relaxed and learning Geshmak, etc. She should call me back in a week, and I guaranteed a total Yeshua. After two days she called that he was suddenly offered a new Kollel which learns in a totally different style that he loves. She said that he never looked so happy in his life.
Besides, they received another call that their problem with living in crammed overpriced quarters has been solved. They were looking high and low for more comfortable quarters, and everything was overpriced. Suddenly, a new development opened up; spacious and super inexpensive. Look how the frame of mind of a person can change so many areas of his life!
Being tense and nervous despite all your Avodas HaBitachon can be detrimental. A 27-year-old Bachur called me about a Shidduch. I told him that instead of sitting around and worrying all day: מֵא יִןְּי בֹאְּעֶז רִ יְּ when shall come my Yeshua, start thanking Hashem 20 minutes a day, and you'll soon be a Chosson. After a month he called me and told me that it didn't work. I told him to continue. After a second month still no results. I persisted that he should continue.
This is extremely important! No Yi'ush! ה ע ק ש ןְּי צ לִיח ְּ The stubborn will be Matzliach! After three months he became a Chosson. He told me that by thanking 20 minutes a day he became happier and more relaxed, and things started moving. A 52-year-old man who never learned how to drive a car who was going nowhere, and was over-age to learn new tricks in life, was advised to listen to my speeches.
After a short while this person's entire mentality changed, and he finally got his license. A person who was heavily addicted to: כ ְּלְְּּ ד ְּב ְּרְּא ְּסוּר the worst things for 10 years, started listening to my speeches and his life turned around. He is clean for a year and half, and as happy as can be. I don't speak about driving cars and overcoming 12 step program issues, but my general positivism does wonders for all kinds of situations.
A man had been severely traumatized throughout his younger years, and he needed a special support group three times a week for 30 years. About a year ago, I was in touch with his relatives who are constantly discussing him as if he's cured. Recently he cancelled his membership to the support group!
There could be various reasons for these many "impossible" cures. I am always playing down, and being M'vatel and M'zalzel in the most scary and incurable situations. People don't realize how much all their problems are based on their perception of their problems. Also, I teach people not to be afraid of feeling superior to others, which can be a: חוֹב קָדוֹש holy obligation and a Mitzva Rabba for those who need it.
I am M'zalzel in the lovers of “pain” and being a victim and a rachmanus and a nebach. I uncover the fallacy and stupidity of these prevalent sicknesses and habits. They say that the Chofetz Chaim Zatzal was once approached by a Chashuva person, who insisted that he had the worst Yissurim in the world. The Chofetz Chaim remarked that there are people who get Kavod for being a nebach! Learn to love a happy life. וּבָחַרְ תָ בַחַיִּים נצבים ל יט Chose life! It's not always so easy.
If you are a hardworking intense Oved Hashem, you can hurt yourself in Ruchaniyus and Gashmiyus, Chas V’shalom, unless you work in a relaxed manner
