This is why the Avos preferred doing Shiduchim with Aram, a Lashon of Romemus. And despite the evil and trickery of Besuel and Lavan, they were doers, and once you’re a doer, it can be channeled the right way. Notice that Arayos is basically by forbidding: כְמַעֲשֵּה אֶּרֶּץ מִצְרַיִם וּכְמַעֲשֵּה אֶּרֶּץ כְנַעַן אחרי יח ג the actions of Mitzrayim and Canaan; the two nations who do zero. This promotes Arayos, as Chazal say: שֶּהַבַטָלָה מְבִיאָה לִידֵּי זִמָה משנה כתובות נט ב idleness brings a person to sin.
A Yid needs to utilize the Yetzer Hara for Avodas Hashem, like Chazal say: בְכָל לְבָבְךָ בִשְנֵּי יְצָרֶּיךָ משנה סוף ברכות that a person must serve Hashem with both his Yetzer Tov and Yetzer Hara, and: לְעולָם יַעֲסֹק אָדָם בַתורָה וּבַמִצְוות אֲפִלּוּ שֶּלֹּא לִשְמָהּ פסחים נ ב a person needs to start off learning Shelo Li'shmah. We’ll get frum later; first just start moving and appreciating your Maalos. Yocheved and Miriam said: כִי לֹא כַנָשִ ים הַמִצְרִ יֹת הָעִבְרִ יֹת שמות א יט The Jewish women aren’t like Mitzri women: כִי חָיות הֵּנָה they are independent people, like animals who don’t need help giving birth. Rabeinu Yonah in Mishlei says that a Tzaddik is independent, and a Rasha is dependent.
Always move! And move with Geshmak and variety in Avodas Hashem. Baal Shem Tov
