TRUE STORY
A Yungerman called me up about his wife who had just told him that she wishes he would die! He was all worried about what such a statement would cause, Hashem Y'racheim. It’s a bad sign, and all kinds of Tzaros are on the way for saying such a thing, Chas V'shalom! Do you know what I told him? That it means zero – and if anything – it’s a Segula for having a long and healthy life!
He started laughing, and indeed, when you laugh you drive away all the evil Kochos – they are not comfortable with happy people! They are attracted to worriers and complainers, and people who are full of superstition and negativism! These are the frumies who need a relative or friend to set them straight, and teach them to enjoy life without unnecessary restrictions and worries, Chumros, etc.
But I did recommend that his wife should be taught to speak in a more refined manner. And maybe if he would be nicer to her, she would be less nervous and not talk this way. Every case is different.
