הָ אִ שָ ה אֲש ר נָתַ תָ ה עִ מָ דִ י הִ וא נָתְ נָה לִ י מִ ן הָ עֵ ץ וָאֹכֵל ג יב
The Human Before You Is Only a Nisayon from Hashem in Disguise
I always wondered why was Dovid's life totally involved in Ha'tavah B'makom Hakpada; i.e., when someone did something to upset him, he Davka did him a favor (Ha'tavah) instead of being upset (Hakpada). Dovid never points at his enemies and says: ‘You are the problem in my life’. Instead, he always forgives, and he only sees Hashem in them. He loves and respects Shaul, Avner, and Avshalom, who were his worst enemies; although they all hated him and wanted to kill him.
Dovid was actually the last 70 years that Adam HaRishon lost. (Zohar). The main problem with Adam HaRishon was when he blamed Chava for his sin, and said: הָ אִ שָ ה אֲש ר נָתַ תָ ה עִ מָ דִ י It's all Your fault, since you gave me Chava for a wife; and Rashi calls him an ingrate. R' Tzvi Hirsh of Ziditchov said that Adam would have been somewhat forgiven right away for his sin, but saying that it’s Hashem’s fault since He gave him Chava for a wife, was his true major sin.
We can suggest that this is why Dovid was so involved in forgiving his enemies. He was being: מְתַקֵן correcting the sin of Adam. When you see a human before you, and you don’t realize that he is only a Nisayon from Hashem in disguise, then you fail to understand the basic truth of your existence.
You were created to work on your Middos, and when you love your enemies without blaming them, THEN you are living with the truth. The people in your life simply don’t count; they are just tests Min HaShamayim. This is why Dovid was always: מודֶה admitting on all his wrong-doings, like he said: וְחַטָאתִי נֶגְדִי תָמִיד my sin is before me always. ‘I’m always blaming myself, because then I grow in Middos’.
The essence of true Malchus is an independent person whose main goal in life is to kill his ‘own’ Yetzer Hara, and doesn’t get persuaded by others.